When a marriage ends, it can seem impossible to imagine yourself in a new relationship, let alone walking down the aisle again. However, the majority of people who divorce do marry again. And often, people have learned critical lessons about life, love and themselves from their first marriage.
As such, protecting yourself as you enter a new marriage can be a top priority. The following are tips on how you can do this.
Create a prenup
A prenuptial or premarital agreement is not the most romantic document, but it can be critical to your relationship. You already know that marriages can end in divorce. A prenup can safeguard your assets and provide valuable guidance in the event of a split.
A valid prenup can secure separate assets, which can be especially critical if you have children from a previous marriage. You can also use this agreement to specify dispute resolution methods and address spousal concerns.
Consider your children
Your children will have a new stepparent, so it will be crucial to discuss your plans to remarry with them at an age-appropriate level. It can also be wise to inform your ex and talk about any impact the marriage might have on existing custody orders.
If your new partner plans to adopt your children or if you plan to adopt your stepchildren, be sure you know what that entails and whether it is possible. You can consult an attorney to discuss this.
Get proactive to tackle your concerns
It is only natural to be hesitant about remarriage. You can struggle with some emotional challenges, and you might worry that the same issues that contributed to the end of your previous marriage will come up again.
Confronting these fears or concerns and talking about them with a therapist or counselor can be helpful. You might seek individual support or have sessions as a couple. Not only can this support provide tools that allow you to navigate challenging situations, but it can also allow you to understand yourself and your needs better.
And when you can tackle your concerns before they create friction in your marriage, you can prevent considerable pain and stress.
These tips can set your marriage up for success and allow you to feel confident and protected in your new union.